So this is our design expert… This is how my boss introduced me to a Fortune 100 client. It was my first design job. I tried to pull my shit together and pretend to be a “design expert” as much as possible. I felt uncomfortable and like a fraud. What does it mean to you […]
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Part 1 talks about personal background & realizations about self-comparison. This Part 2 provides more actionable frameworks to deal with unhealthy self-comparison. “What’d you get on your test?” In school, this question annoyed me to no end. I labeled repeat offenders as Test Score Naggers (TSNs). Even early on in grade school, I avoided TSNs
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Have you ever gotten lost on the road and all your passenger can seem to do is tell you how bad you are at directions, or that you suck? When I’m the driver, the last thing you want to hear is how bad I am at directions (disclaimer: I’m pretty bad with directions). It doesn’t
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Today, I turn 27. Until relatively recently in our history as Sapiens, it was rare for our species to get old enough to be grandparents. So I’m just glad to have made it here in good health. I wrote a list of things I learned when I turned 25. Today, I continue with more personal lessons
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In Part 1, I make a huge realization about my career that shifted my thinking and helped me move beyond self comparison. In Part 2, I discuss specific strategies to deal with self comparison. There were many chances growing up to feel like the black sheep of my family. My late father was an engineer,
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Feels a little surreal to turn 25. When I was younger, I had the vague impression that at 25 I’ll be a millionaire, driving an exotic car etc etc. While that’s not the case (and what’s important to me has changed), I’ve learned a lot. Whereas most people share general life lessons, I want to
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I never met my father. Not consciously, at least – I was two when he passed away. In the way that children are oblivious, I don’t think it really registered in my brain that my mom was a “single mom” until the 4th grade. Not until some damn kid or teacher had to point it
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Quite possibly the most annoying acronym of 2012, “YOLO” has taken teens and twentysomethings by storm. This concatenation of “You Only Live Once” is popular not only because of Drake, but because it allows people to justify this mentality: “I’m going to die someday, so this is my excuse to do something stupid.” I know,
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I forgot how I stumbled upon The Defining Decade. But it was the wake-up call I needed. This book talks about the importance of our 20s, a topic that I always knew was hugely important. The overarching argument is that what we do our 20s is most pivotal to the development of the rest of
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