Communal dreams: your ideal community is closer than you think
Don’t look too far in the distance – or future – for community.
Don’t look too far in the distance – or future – for community.
Borrowing the language of the physical to resolve the emotional.
This letter should thoroughly describe why we couldn’t work. You wanted raw honesty, here it is: you were my rebound. I must have read that line a hundred times. It was a turbulent Summer 2013. My ex at the time just broke up with me. After doing the most ridiculous thing I did to any …
Some of you might know that I once did an experiment reading as many pickup books as I can, in order to curate and summarize the best dating advice for men (read: myself). My brain got fried. The pickup artist (“PUA”) books repeated some unhealthy patterns: Senseless routines and scripts on what to say to …
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If you’ve ever wanted to see a man ugly cry, you should’ve seen me on the LA Metro last summer. The wave of emotion hit me after I sunsetted yet another relationship. We met at a park to say goodbye in person. We weren’t a couple, so it didn’t feel like a breakup. But it …
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It’s like I’m trained by Pavlov. The alluring tinkle of Tinder’s notification sends a dopamine hit to my brain. I pull out my phone. I judge, I swipe, I edit my profile one more time. Sometimes a nice conversation happens. Sometimes a date happens. But lately it feels like I have a more significant relationship …
Dating sucks. Unwarranted advice from friends and family make things worse. They mean well. But they often get the whole “empathy” thing wrong. Years ago, a conversation with a friend shed light on how I was doing this to others… Friend: I just got a divorce. Me: I’m sorry man. That must really su— Friend: …
“Being solitary is being alone well: being alone luxuriously immersed in doings of your own choice, aware of the fullness of your own presence rather than of the absence of others. Because solitude is an achievement.” – Alice Koller, American Writer. I didn’t always like being alone. Immigrating to America at the age of six, I …